When every long-term relationship goes through a rough patch, partners may be inclined to look for short-term recreations through a fling. While innocent flirting or friendly dating is considered normal and healthy, something more intense and severe can be damaging to a longer investment in a marriage or a committed relationship.
When one veers to other mates than one’s own partner there are more chances that “falling out of love” is not really the standard reason. Issues like lack of stimulation and the gaps in relationships become heavier moulds or patterns when you are on a day-to-day and more serious relationship. So before you wish to have a fling with another partner, first analyze your thought process on why you wish to.
Are your variable gaps leaving you asking for more or are you feeling taken for granted with your daily, living-in partner. In these typical “I love you, but am not in love with you” situations, there are always possibilities to renew and restore love with a slight bit of edging work. Relationship counselors suggest taking a slight, off-the-edge and adventurous tour with your long-term partner and experience the romance of the early, heady days while taking a break from your everyday rut. While too many couples are too busy to take a break at the heyday of their work, making a mutual investment at spending quality and exclusive time only for together, saves those later and nasty communication gaps. More than most cases it is a lack of mutual communication that often leans one partner or both to a short-term fling. Considering to respect the mode of attachment to a long-term relationship and spending more “us” only time generally helps ease most of these problems, propelling you back to each other!
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