“Men are from Mars”. Nothing comes close to summarize the general idea of masculinity so precisely as this often repeated line. Though men, like every other thing in this universe, come in every shape, size and color including some who would hold things back and some who would wear their hearts on their sleeves, there do runs a common thread among them which makes it easier to characterize the traits in a woman that will attract them.
Talking about these ‘turn on-s’, the list will definitely start with the physical appearance of the female as men are extremely visual creatures and they can comprehend more shades and layers than the latest operating systems! While some may argue that a turn on doesn’t necessarily has to be something to do with physical lust and can range from anything like her attitude to her IQ level, but down the line it all adds up to the fatal female sex appeal!!! After all, few can forget those memorable lines by Al Pacino in his stellar performance as the blind Lt. Col. Frank Slade in “Scent of a Woman” where he runs through the female physique comparing the touch of lips to a sip of wine, legs with Greek columns and concludes by describing what’s between them as passport to heaven.
There was this line from the Jack Nicholson starrer “The Shining” which said, “…women! Cant do with them, cant do without them…” Many feel that there hasn’t been a truer word spoken about the female species and their unpredictable and to some extent enigmatic thought processes.
Thus, it comes as no surprise that to enlist the aspects or traits in a man that will turn on his counterpart from the opposite sex, makes a task of becoming an heir to the Buckingham Palace look tame and easier. Though there does exist a ‘catalog’ of the more accepted things such as well toned body, strong limbs, that perfect pitch of the voice, a sure and yet ambitious nature, etc., it has been seen that there are a certain number of features or qualities that really work wonders with the fairer sex, but so unusual in nature that not only do they tend to escape out of mind, but also can be termed as ‘quite bizarre’. Some of these ‘qualities’ are the sound of one’s name. While a name like Jack, Harry or Tony is considered agreeable enough, a name like Arthur, Douglas or Frank have a better chance. Another interesting fact about woman turn on-s is about the choice of men with a ‘bad boy’ image. Ozzy Osbourne anyone?
To answer the above question successfully is considered to be something at par with the summation of the entire wisdom of the Ten Commandments. After all, none of us are lucky (?) enough to be like Mel Gibson in “What Women Want” and find such a handy and useful route leading directly into the minds and then the hearts of females. So for us poor mortal beings the only way left is to try and observe and in the end get confused about the results and conclusions which seem more varied and contradictory than policies of some of our present day world leaders.
Still, those who want to give it a try must remember that it’s not all brawns after all, however weird it may sound. What women look for is essentially a sensitive, understanding, responsive and caring mind. Well, a few drops of humor and intelligence doesn’t really harm in any way. But then, there are few like Marilyn Monroe in “Some like It Hot” who have very specific preference like owning a yatch, a pair of thick glasses, etc. For those who are fated to stumble upon such women, there is no other way out but simply hope that they look like Cary Grant, Paul Newman or at least George Clooney and forget about the rest!
When every long-term relationship goes through a rough patch, partners may be inclined to look for short-term recreations through a fling. While innocent flirting or friendly dating is considered normal and healthy, something more intense and severe can be damaging to a longer investment in a marriage or a committed relationship.
When one veers to other mates than one’s own partner there are more chances that “falling out of love” is not really the standard reason. Issues like lack of stimulation and the gaps in relationships become heavier moulds or patterns when you are on a day-to-day and more serious relationship. So before you wish to have a fling with another partner, first analyze your thought process on why you wish to.
Are your variable gaps leaving you asking for more or are you feeling taken for granted with your daily, living-in partner. In these typical “I love you, but am not in love with you” situations, there are always possibilities to renew and restore love with a slight bit of edging work. Relationship counselors suggest taking a slight, off-the-edge and adventurous tour with your long-term partner and experience the romance of the early, heady days while taking a break from your everyday rut. While too many couples are too busy to take a break at the heyday of their work, making a mutual investment at spending quality and exclusive time only for together, saves those later and nasty communication gaps. More than most cases it is a lack of mutual communication that often leans one partner or both to a short-term fling. Considering to respect the mode of attachment to a long-term relationship and spending more “us” only time generally helps ease most of these problems, propelling you back to each other!
Clear communication being the secret to a great longstanding relationship doesn’t of course mean that the road to that process would always be rosy. When you are into a serious long-term relation, get prepared of the fact that there are going to be pits and foibles, up and downs in your language of conveyance. It is not always going to be wonderful and exciting. In fact some of the perfect relationships, unlike being popularly patronized by movies and love stories, do not come with easily matched vibes. In fact the longer sustaining ones develop with an understanding of cordiality and an effort to match the various waves of communication.
Often the cues to the actual feelings and thoughts conveyed by your partner could involve mixed natures, making it difficult for you to understand what he or she means. Human beings as we are, we are entitled to mood swings, off days and low key moments in our lives that could be effecting our relationship. In these cases it is essential that partners make the time for each other and share heart-to-heart conversations with one another, analyzing and sorting out their problems. Here the catch is that men are more afraid to be on a roll with an honest conversation involving their emotions. So women often get the vibes that he is not listening or even feel resentment for being the only one to start talking about mutual problems.
Understanding the importance of having mutually regarding conversations is the solution to most problems. The closeness that you feel when broaching a problem together will only add years and wonder to your relationship!
Walk into any college, and what would you see? A variety of colours and designs, on so many kinds of apparel, all so different it will make your head spin. Shreya Sarkar, a first year student of English, says, “In school, we become attuned to our uniforms. But in college, we are allowed to experiment with our look.” And how!
While some girls prefer the Indian look, going for salwar-kameez suits, some like to mix-and-match Eastern and Western, the most common being the kurti-jeans look. Of course, there are some who would not be caught dead in either Eastern or Fusion, but like to wear tops or shirts, with jeans or skirts- whichever they prefer.
Most boys like to stick to comfortable tees and jeans, paired with hardy shoes like either sneakers or sandals. Soumya, a student of Chemistry at St. Xavier’s College, says, “In college, I’m mostly always seen in a T-shirt and jeans. I find that that’s the look that suits me the best.”
Winter calls for a change, too. Out come the shawls and stoles, out come the sweaters and pullovers, the cardigans and jackets.
However, the most important thing to remember is to carry off whatever one is wearing with élan and attitude. For that can make even the most funky of tops, or outlandish of jeans- look stylish and elegant.
College fashion is truly something special by itself. Each strives to find his or her own identity, experimenting with many types of clothing on the way.
It’s often said that it’s a real tough job to fathom the ways of women. However, doing it the other way round and try and guess what about a woman is going to attract a man is not a piece of cake either. This is for the very basic and simple reason that all of this is a matter of opinion and choices which are bound to vary from individual to individual and drawing certain conclusions or making interpretations about it is almost next to impossible.
However, on the basis of certain ‘delicate’ studies it has been seen that men all over do have some common threads running when it comes to a matter of women. For instance, apart from the looks which include the figure, the hair, eyes, legs, etc. most men want their women to be in the pink which in a way secures the future of the relationship in a lot of ways as argued by the psychologists. Next in line come the attitude and the mental wavelengths which in turn define the personality of a woman. According to most men, the perfect synergy of being feminine and practical is the winning combination. Finally, it can be said that in spite of all the speculations, it’s a properly poised persona that really makes the day.
